You can always say "No"

     I've noticed that some people have a hard time saying "No".  It may be the personality of these people to be of a generous nature, they are interested in helping.  However, sometimes it could be guilt, not because they have done anything to feel guilty about but they are made to feel guilty by the person asking for a favor.

     Guilt is the tool that many religions use to motivate you to take action on their behalf.  Unfortunately, many others including employers use guilt to get more out of their friends or staff.  Some may do this unintentionally but others use it because they know it works.  The thing is that we all have the right to say "No" without feeling guilty.  Saying "No" to someone else can mean saying "Yes" to yourself.

     Emotions are powerful and feeling guilty is a strong emotion.  If you have done something to feel guilty about then that's valid.  If someone tries to make you feel guilty in order to manipulate you that's wrong on their part.  Your first priority is finding and maintaining your happiness which means your needs come ahead of others.  Once you have fulfilled your needs you will have time to say "Yes" but on your terms.

     Don't say "Yes" because of guilt but do say "Yes" because it's your choice.  Guilt is a negative emotion even if it forces good results.  If you are forced to act because of guilt you will be resentful and this will damage your self-esteem.  Of course these are just my opinions or beliefs based on my life experiences so feel free to disagree.

     Exercise your free will to say "No" when you feel pressured to say "Yes".  It's empowering to know you control your life and the decisions you make.  Say "Yes" when you know it's right for you.  "Just Saying...."